Real Talk: Self Trust

Let’s be real, from the time we are little girls, we are told—directly or subtly—that our instincts can't be trusted. We’re told to smile when we feel uncomfortable. To be polite when we want to say no. To second-guess our “gut feelings” if they make others uncomfortable. We're praised for being agreeable, not for being grounded in our own truth.

Over time, that conditioning chips away at self-trust. We stop checking in with ourselves and start looking outward for answers, approval, and permission. And then we wonder why we feel lost, anxious, or unsure.

But here's the truth: You were never the problem. You were taught not to trust yourself because a woman who trusts her intuition, her body, her no’s and her yes’s—that woman is powerful.

Rebuilding self-trust isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about coming home to who you were before the world told you not to believe yourself.

So start small. Pause before saying yes. Listen to the tightness in your chest or the warmth in your belly. Take your feelings seriously. Reclaim your right to know what’s right for you.

That’s not selfish. That’s sacred.