Real Talk: Attachment isn’t Connection
Real talk… Connection was not always my goal, and it’s not for a lot of us.
I spent my late-teens and twenties seeking acceptance for what I thought was my true Self. It turns out, I was a really good chameleon. I fit my Self into spaces too small for who I truly was, dimming my light, and quietting my inner voice to bring comfort to others. What I believed to be connection was actually my ability to attach to others by acknowledging their needs and stepping in with my overgiving and people pleasing to keep them satisfied, or worse, “make them happy” so they wouldn’t leave—cue my daddy issues. My fear that people would leave me was the foundation of all my relationships which made it impossible to show up authentically and form healthy sustainable connection.
Maybe right now you’re calling bullshit. You might be telling yourself things like, “I never cared and still don’t care about what people think of me. I don’t need to be liked by other people.” Respectfully, you’re wrong. Anytime I hear someone say “I don’t care” all I hear is that they once deeply cared about something, be it an opportunity or a person, and the thought of losing that important again is too painful to tolerate. So, cut the act, we all care to some extent about being accepted for who we are, our beliefs, passions, and goals.
With sincere compassion,
Brianna
I’ll Let you Sit with This
Are you going to allow how much you care and the possibility of pain/disappointment get in the way of how you show up in the world?
Connect with me to share your answer, I’d love to Sit with That with you!
